when you tell a man how he has hurt you and his response is “oh I’m such a piece of shit I’m a terrible person omg omg” and mentions/does nothing at all w/re: to your pain
(and then you’re the one reassuring and comforting him of course you are, again)
This is a abuser tactic. If a man does this, he is a toxic person and a manipulator who needs to be avoided forever.
I don’t always quote bible verses, but when I do it’s to point out Christian hypocrisy.